Talk:Amy Farrah Fowler/@comment-50.57.126.201-20120310024908

According to Miss Manners, in the US, the only polite sspronee to how are you? is fine thank you. And you? It's a ritual exchange, not a real question. Also, deeply, culturally strange.Don't worry about how to respond to sympathy. Mumble out a thanks  if you can, but if you can't, that's ok.I'm so sorry for your loss. It does get easier over time. This projected lessening of grief has seemed impossible or even wrong to me, but it does happen.You wrote, why I didn't sense that I needed to call her. Any time that somebody dies too young or too soon of something that seems preventable, the people close to them feel something like this. Why didn't I notice this and why didn't I try that? I try not to think like this. I tell myself that my love can't save anybody, but it can bring them comfort. Love is not curative, but it is palliative. You didn't know. She didn't tell you. Your love still mattered.